Romantic getaways can transform into stressful situations when work enters the picture. Advisory firm Korn Ferry released a study in 2017 about what causes disagreements between couples on vacation (honeymoons, engagement-moons and anniversary trips included) and the overwhelming majority of couples hit snags over work—namely, because, they’re too attached.
According to the statistics, 88 percent of those surveyed said they’ve had to cancel or cut a vacation short because of work, and those couples who do manage to jet off to some distant, sunny locale often find themselves unable to detach from work emails and other obligations. Though the reasons why honeymooners tend to check in with the office varies, one overwhelming cause is because employees feel responsible for “putting out fires and getting pulled into critical issues.” (Fifty-three percent of those surveyed noted this as a reason for their technological attachment.)
Another reason is perhaps a little harder to parse out: a quarter of respondents said they check in with the office during vacations because they “enjoy the work”—which is great and all, but perhaps not best for romance. Interestingly enough, a majority of those surveyed (74 percent) said they would take the same amount of time off even if they were given unlimited vacation time, and 12 percent said they might take even less time.
There are several ways to counter this argument from creeping into your honeymoon or future anniversary trip.
Communicate With Your Partner
First, talking to your spouse about the boundaries you both set, in terms of being off the grid, will also help to alleviate any possible tensions. If you must check emails, do it during an agreed-upon time so that you don’t surprise your S.O. with a full workday when you technically should be spending quality time together at the spa or a cooking class. Also, we highly recommend marital and relationship health apps like Lasting, because it’s one way to build a strong foundation.
Alert Your Coworkers and Prepare at Work
A survey by TripAdvisor found that 91 percent of Americans admitted to checking their emails on vacation. If you let your coworkers know that you’ll be harder to reach (intentionally), most will kindly take care of any outstanding needs in the office while you’re away or spare your inbox so that you can enjoy your getaway without forwarding nonsense. Finally, remember to turn on that out-of-office alert and delete emails from your phone if you can.
Research Before Booking Your Property
To ensure you’re spending as much time offline and IRL as possible while on a vacation, book a resort that is conducive to allowing you to reach this goal. While some properties are known for being remote work “hotspots,” find those off-the-grid or luxurious destinations that will allow you to truly say, “I’m offline.”
If it’s unfeasible to go offline completely, allot a set amount of time for checking work emails each day, possibly no more than 15 minutes at a time. (An out-of-office on your email will help.) Several resorts and properties specifically designate WiFi-enabled locations, like a cafe on site, so that work emails and a constant barrage of texts and social media posts are contained and won’t further derail a romantic getaway for two.
That way, your face time with your loved one will be off the screen and not on it, and you can both really enjoy that quality time away together without any distractions. See our picks for remote and romantic resorts below.